The reality is that it’s quite normal to hate being a mom from time to time.
That’s what got you into this situation in the first place! How in the world can you watch a baby all day – or split your time between the baby and work – and still be expected to get excited when your partner gets home? And sex? Forget about it. Trying to keep your relationship going will also become extremely difficult. Additionally, you’ll feel guilty about going to work, as if not being there 24/7 for your child will permanently mess them up. How can a woman reasonably be expected to work eight+ hours a day and raise a happy, healthy child? You’ll spend your lunch break pumping milk, and there will never be a time when you’re not tired. The situation becomes even more dire if you’re trying to maintain your career. If you’re able to be a stay-at-home mom, your life will quickly become all about diapers, spit-up, and crying – and we’re not just talking about the baby’s regular tears. And, in 99.9 percent of cases, it’s the woman’s life that changes the most. Having a baby is one of the biggest changes a person can face.
#Simply being mum how to
If you’ve ever felt this way…read on to learn more about why you feel the way you do – and how to change it. So, I do it anyway, even if I hate it sometimes. No, the truth is that I like nothing about the actual job, yet I love my kids more than anything else in the world. “Of course, I love my kids, and I wouldn’t change a thing, but…Diapers? Mopping up vomit? Bleeding nipples and breast pumps? Being awakened repeatedly through the night and at 5-6 am daily for four consecutive years?” Moms aren’t allowed to feel this way, certainly not allowed to say it out loud. And I instantly knew I had made a terrible mistake. “I don’t like it at all,” I said, with far too much honesty.
My response was a shock, like a bucket of ice water thrown at my face. He was divorced with no kids and was so genuinely excited to hear all about my family. He gets to go to work, which is by far the easier job.Ī few years ago, when my kids were 2 and 4, I ran into an old friend who I hadn’t seen in 10 years. She’s crippled by sleep deprivation, her husband works 12 hours a day, and doesn’t get how awful she feels. Sometimes it’s so bad she gets into the shower at the end of the day and just cries. Naturally, she loves her son, she’s grateful for the opportunity to be with him, but she feels trapped, lonely, and like every other mom is having more fun. She’s at home with her 7-month-old, breastfeeding, doing all the childcare and night parenting, and feeling guilt-ridden for not being very happy. Yesterday, I spoke with a new mom who’s having a rough time.
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